Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Oscars 2014 - When Wrinkles and Grey Hair are Trumping Fillers and Botox




Quick post Oscar note here. I've got so many great comments and opinions on this weeks Red Carpet Chat  post and love hearing what you all have to say.

Something I am hearing consistently, and again last evening, from my friend and designer, Andrea, (who happens to live in Santa Monica and near many stars and celebs), is that the best looking women on Oscar night were the girls with the wrinkles and grey hair. I could not agree more, especially when we look at the red carpet photos.



Matthew McConaughey and his cute mama.


With all the moms and older actresses present, it was striking the difference in appearances of women of the same ages.



Cute actress June Squibb being flirted with by Jared Leto, above and below.




As a woman it's encouraging and empowering to think we needn't go down that path of botox and fillers to look chic, pretty and relevant. In fact, quite the opposite.




Meryl Streep is not grey, but natural.



Also note that these gals who so proudly sport their silver hair and lines also dress well, have style and great grooming.




I'm not wanting to judge those who do, but instead share the message that you can still be beautiful without choosing that path.

Kim Novak, Goldie Hawn and Liza clearly have. . .






I personally hope to look like June rather than Kim when I'm over 80. (If I'm lucky enough to still be around.)


What are your thoughts?

 Kim



Images Us, People, Daily Mail, Pinterest.

42 comments :

  1. I feel like Jared Leto's mom is who I've been trying to become:).

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    1. Me too LPC! She's perfect for her age to me.

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    2. She's stunning, that's where he gets his looks from.
      Even Helen Mirren has taken it to far now, her jawline is preternaturally pulled, I have no quibbles with folk choosing to do it but I wish they wouldn't lie about it.

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  2. I'm white haired and wrinkled, so possibly somewhat biased! (Crickey, am I on trend at last!!) But I think the examples that you've shown of altered faces are alarming and also desperately sad. And those must be examples of what serious money can buy - how tragic. Such a shame that Goldie Hawn doesn't realise that it is her personality that we love and not a wrinkle-free, but very weird, face. (And Kim Novak should ask for her money back.)

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    1. Dear Share, You are chic! I do think that they cannot possibly see how they look. You start with a little tweak and get convinced to do more.. I know how it is as every time I go for my rosacea medicine they keep trying to get me back for botox..Of course it makes you feel like maybe you need it..You are right, Goldie would be beautiful as natural and we love her as herself, not Barbie Goldie. Thanks for your note!

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  3. Poor Kim Novak! Oh dear … something really went wrong! Jared Leto's mom is gorgeous! No wonder he's such a cutie!
    OXOX

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    1. He and she are both adorable. I love how he flirted with all the other older gals too.

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  4. I feel for the ladies who have gone down the proverbial slippery slope. They probably had good intentions. They were simply reacting to our culture and the quest to stay relevant. And clearly, they did not have the confidence to age gracefully as did the others pictured. I hope that the tide reverses itself and growing old gracefully becomes the new fad.

    I also hope my daughter can navigate this culture without falling prey to the "need" to look a certain way. As we approach the teen years that weighs heavily on me and strengthens my resolve to be a model of dignity and grace as I age.

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    1. I am writing to hope reverse the thought that we should say no to all this. The more of us that reject the notion of the perfect unwrinkled woman, we all win. I so agree raising a daughter in this youth obsessed culture must be hard. I have boys, but I do talk about how girls are most attractive naturally.

      With teens I so agree it's all about what we do. If we hate how we look and obsess about it, we imprint this. Aging gracefully, is what I wish too. I hope young girls realize their natural selves is what is attractive and not the products and perfection we are sold starting at such a young age..

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  5. Unfortunately, you don't need to look far for faces distorted by botox and fillers. I just came back from the grocery store and the number of poor souls, much younger than Kim Novak, Goldie Hawn and Liza Minelli, all sporting trout pouts and expressionless foreheads is stunning. When I see women who are a decade younger than me who have done this to themselves, I shake my head...Don't get me wrong, I haven't given up on hair dye yet and every now and then I pull my cheeks up with my fingers in the mirror, but when I catch myself doing that I shake it off as fast as possible. Authentic beauty radiates from inside a person. A crooked smile, an off center beauty mark, silver hair, heavy lids, ample hips, small breasts...these things can all be irresistible and, in most cases, I would argue that the owners of these "imperfections" may never see themselves the way others do. So, yeah, if I make it to eighty, I want to be like June, too.

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    1. Photomom, I love what you have said here about beauty in imperfection!! It's really what can make us most attractive and even sexy.. Why can't we embrace that?
      I am not in love with how my neck has aged and other things, but I am not sure doing anything about it would make me happier. I think I'd just find another item to fix..Like you said many young women in our affluent area start these fillers and more as soon as they can afford it, but they are making themselves look older than their age because it's so obvious..

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  6. GREAT WRITE UP! So true.
    I could not agree more and wish you would have included Meryl, who I think did not have work done and has always had incredible skin. She has taken to wearing large frames on her eyes possibly because she needs to see but also to "hide". And ofcourse Ellen, who I think looks amazing-what style she has and so her!
    I have never injected anything into my face, due to fear and the thought that I will be the one that will leave the MD's office looking like, well, Goldie Hawn! And after seeing your image of her, now I really won't get it done!.
    Cate Blanchett said it best that Hollywood needs to notice the performances and the bankability of the actress. How refreshing to see so many nominated over the age of 45. And getting once in a lifetime parts!
    Regardless-I agree whole heartedly with you on this and really enjoyed your commentary. THANKYOU!!!

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    1. Thanks I forgot about Meryl, and she is natural and lovely too! So is Ellen. Will add them! I do think it's wonderful older women are getting more and better roles.They are playing a more relevant part in films and society. Go older women!! We are not invisible.
      Thanks Joan,

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  7. Ugh what happened.....anyway was going to say long shorts were kind of formal, as opposed to men wearing skirts....all the actresses showed up to receive an Oscar-dressed for success but to me, the stand outs were LUPITA in that FABULOUS Prada gown and MM's wife in the blush pink number absolutely gorgeous against that caramel skin. AMAZING.

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  8. I feel very sorry for Kim Novak. But then again I was never a great beauty so growing old isn't that scary for me. Plus I had great role models of aging women so growing old never held any fear for me anyway. But seeing all the fillers etc just depresses me I just feel like shaking them and saying - you aint fooling nobody! I would rather look good than young.

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    1. You know Naomi researching this I found a lot of not too long ago pics of Kim and she was aging well. She was a great beauty and honestly, they age better than average folks, so I don't know who or what compelled her to do this. It may have a lot to do with vanity and being caught up in looks alone, which never makes for a happy life...

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  9. Jared Leto's mom is a very attractive woman...and seriously her son Jared is so handsome!
    I wonder about the physicians that perform plastic surgery....it is obvious that the results are not guaranteed to look natural. I will accept my wrinkles gracefully.

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    1. Hostess, I agree I'd rather take my chances with Mother Nature. At least I'll still look like myself.

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  10. I just have to say that I LOVE this! There is no denying when comparing photos that aging gracefully is the way to go. It is interesting when you think about the 3 "overdone" faces- they are all actresses, it must be really difficult to age when your career is in show biz. With the exception of June Squib, the other more natural beauties are the moms of stars. Makes me glad to be just an "ordinary" person :-) Just the blog post I needed to read with my 50th year around the corner. Thanks for always being so poignant Kim.

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    1. Deb, Thanks so much! I do think there is some terrible pressure for these actresses to keep up appearances. Funny how that hasn't happened in the U.K. where actresses wear their wrinkles proudly and are revered and keep working regardless...i.e. Judy Dench, Maggie Smith,etc.
      I am in the same boat as you with 50 and year and a half away. I need to remind myself to appreciate the journey and the face I have earned and that I can still be attractive without faking like I'm 30 and perfect. xx

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  11. I don't know what is happening to Goldie Hawn and Kim Novak. They look scary. But Glenn Close and Meryl Streep are so beautiful,dignified, elegant and aging so gracefully. I think it really depends on how secure you feel about yourself.

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    1. Pam It's all in the self esteem isn't it? Our culture has to change too so women don't judge themselves so harshly. We need to see more Meryls and Glens, less perfection, more quirky and unique, and wise women.

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  12. Jared Leto's mom looked stunning! Glen Close may have silver hair, but she has also had massive amounts of plastic surgery over the years. No kind words can describe Kim or Goldie's faces. I hope to age with more confidence. xoJennifer

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    1. Isn't she? She has many wrinkles and is beautiful.

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  13. Oh my gosh - had not seen those last photos - frightening!!! Goldie Hawn has also got the weirdest skin tone too, the make up stops at her jaw line. Its like something just pulled everything from behind them and then they went onto a botoxathon. The best photo of the night was Glen Close making a funny face and laughing with Meryl Streep. Actresses are supposed to be able to move their faces funny that you would immobilise it that much

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    1. You know I almost considered not including those last pictures, but I just wanted to show the contrast between natural and what they have chosen...

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  14. Absolutely agree 100%!!!! And, I am one of those women - naturally not grey yet but sure have the wrinkles, changes in skin and all the rest at 62 y.o. Just enjoying life and appreciating health! Too much to see and love in this world for me to take the time for all the unnecessary surgery. Beautiful women you highlighted! Love your blog! Thanks!

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    1. Yes I agree, too much to do and enjoy. Being fixated on looks does not pay off. Thanks so much for the note!

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  15. Oh my God, those pictures ! I'm happy I didn't see Kim or Goldie, these are two scary ladies. I only saw Liza and she looked very tight (in both senses of the word ?); but my daughter and I oohed and aahed every time we saw Jared Leto's mother. She is perfect !x

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    1. Dear SB, I think she was. I have been trying to get to your blog. Is it closed now? Miss reading it. Take care and thanks for the note!

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  16. I love the long silver hair. It's absolutely stunning. Some people say that when your hair gets that gray, it has to be cut short. I think your post proves otherwise. Bravo!

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    1. I agree too. In fact we need to see more girls with long grey hair! x

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  17. Kim,
    Could not agree more! i love your post and all the interaction with your readers through the comments.
    xo
    annie

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  18. Coming from one who has given in to gray "graciously". I agree Jared Leto's mom rocks!!

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  19. Great post Kim and I absolutely agree with you here. You have shown how elegant and stylish these ladies look when growing old naturally. Matthew McConaughey's Mum looks fabulous and Jared Leto's Mum too! I have always admired Helen Mirren too. Have a great weekend.

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  20. Wow! What a lovely post Kim and I so agree with you. So lovely to see those graceful and distinguished ladies up against those that are looking more and more freakish every time I see them -how sad :-( I often wonder what the likes of Goldie and Liza think when they see the other end of the "growing old gracefully" spectrum.

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  21. Dame Judi Dench and Helen Mirren are how I'd like to look when I'm over 60, or over 70 in Dame Judi's case - not a fan of Goldie or Liza's current look!

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  22. Oh Kim this is such a fabulous post! I so agree with you-agelessness is definitely in this year. I just shared this on google + your images tell the true story here. I've flirted with the idea of letting the color go but am not quite ready yet. These women are rocking the look. By the way, I've been meaning to tell you how happy I am that you liked your goodies from Stylemindchic Boutique and that the bracelet looked so fab!! xx, Heath

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  23. I totally agree! As I enter the older age group, some of these ladies are my inspiration for a kind of style to aspire to.

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  24. Jared and Shannon's mom is just stunning, isn't she? I share your stand, I absolutely prefer that look to the "fake young" one, it seems graceful rather than desperate, like the latter.

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  25. Great post! Id rather look natural than like plastic!

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  26. Oh my gosh, Kim Novak - what happened to her? Such a tough industry with insane pressure to look young and smooth, I guess.

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